SARAH SPEAKS: ON MARRIAGE, IS IT REALLY WORTH IT?

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I think marriage is a beautiful thing. Having seen a perfect example of my parent’s marriage hasn’t changed that thought either. However, I've always been scared of marrying the wrong husband or better yet marrying someone else’s husband. This probably has to do with the stories I've heard both from other people and seen on social media. And these days there seems to be a total disregard for the entire institution.

It’s interesting to see that I've come from a point of looking for a good looking man with a great style (all superficial things that were a priority back then) to wanting someone on fire for God (Praying seriously guys)

And yet here in my country there is this pressure that comes once a woman has "reached the age of marriage". After all, you’re done with school and working, what are you waiting for? I always laugh at this because I feel the union is not by force. A lot of dysfunctional marriages these days, I feel were birthed from the various societal pressures to embark on a journey one has not fully grasped the concept of. 

I sometimes wonder, is marriage everything really? I mean it is a commandment from God and beautiful thing as I've said but is it necessary for one to be truly fulfilled? And no I’m not saying I’m not thinking of this, I’ve already planned the wedding in my head just waiting patiently till I’m ready.

What are your thoughts on marriage? The pressures of society? Is there an age for marriage? Does one really need to be ready before entering the institution?

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  1. It's so sad that the female folks are the ones that mostly go through this BS. The only time I have seen guys pressured are when they are the only son or the only child in some cases.

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    1. You see gun that's one thing that goes through my head, this is provably why some women just give up and marry anyone. And sometimes I feel the guys get it too though bit then again their the ones asking so for them its a question of finding the wife

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  2. And the truth is that this only happens in our own part of the world.

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    1. I don't think its only in our part of the world entirely, I remember while living in Thailand a friend was telling me she wants to get married on time before she becomes undesirable. There too there is a certain expected age for marriage that once passed, most locals won't marry you. In cases like these I've noticed the women usually marry foreigners or farangs as they like to say. Thank you so much for stopping by.

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    2. You're welcome, Sarah. Your posts are very inspiring.

      By our part of the world, I meant a conservative culture. I have never been to Thailand but I know it might not be different over there. I live in the US and most girls here don't aspire to marry at a young age like we do in Nigeria.

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    3. Thanks so much Taiwo for reading. I see what you mean and yeah its not exactly different over there as their culture is quite conservative too. And I understand, I remember talking to my American friend and she was like that's the last thing on my mind, I've got to get my life together and make money.

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  3. I feel like one has to be spiritually, emotionally and physicAlly ready for marriage because it is not easy at all. And from social media it scares the hell out of me lol because of the stories I hear and the fact that it is no joke, So i feel like there is no rush, everygirl should ignore the people aRound putting pressure on her and should Make sure she is ready for that commitment. Immediately I finished law school alot of ppl started telling me to go and get married lmao!! 😂😂 I was just like I aint ready leave me alone lol.

    Larisasdiary.com

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    1. I agree with you Larisa and feel the same way but yet I've met people who said they weren't exactly ready when they got married but learnt in the process. It's no joke oh, the stories out there will just be making someone scared. Lol I like your response, tell them oh. Its the same thing I say when I get such comments.

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  4. Hehehe, when I saw Sarah speaks on marriage, I was like Jesus! Sarah is about to get married! Made me read I guess.
    I think most times people feel marriage is an end, as if they world would stop spinning as soon as they get 'married'truth is, it doesn't and won't . Dunno if there's an age, but I strongly feel being ready is key. Plus there are tons of things to do in this beautiful Godgiven life besides 'marriage'. But ehn, girl! The pressure is real, pointers everywhere, with prayer points sef if u not careful they can term it an 'issue'😁

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    1. Lol the wedding bells are not ringing for me oh, at least it made you read which is good. Lol it will not be an issue oh, don't mind the. But I like your point, there are a lot more other things do to on this earth.

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  5. Please o. Marriage is not by force. And I'm not sure about marriage being a commandment from God - I say so, because Paul did say that marriage was an option (just that it's easier to be married than stay single and be tempted to have premarital sex or adultery). Whatever it is, nobody should get married because they feel pressured to - it is NOT that serious.

    Berry Dakara Blog

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    1. Finally a response from a married person. While I think Paul is a good example of an unmarried man, the bible did say we should be fruitful and multiply and than a man should also leave home to become one with a woman. I do agree its not by force.

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  6. What at Berry Dakara said. Marriage was indeed instituted by God yet let's face it not everyone is cut out for it,especially in this difficult times we live in. I'd rather be single than be in an unhappy marriage or married to someone I can't stand just because he was the only option. It's true that our society puts pressure on us especially women yet it's up to us to not allow society make decisions for us.

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    1. I agree with both you and Berry girl. Marriage is not for everyone and I think the sooner everyone realizes this, the better the society will be. And as you said, its up to us not to allow society decided for us and like you I'd rather be single and play aunty to my nieces than be unhappily married. With that being said, I'd like to be happily married when the time is right, thank you for stopping by hun.

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